Where does impulsivity come from?

Before you answer, stay in calmness. Impulsiveness comes from an insecurity of wanting to please everybody and be in service as much as possible. It's about lack of love to yourself, because you are ready to make quick decisions without considering your deepest inner desire and possibility, forgetting that non action is action and that things need to be decided in calmness for the good of all. Our society is much under pressure to perform and make quick decisions. Much is decided in an impulsive way without considering all aspects of life and circumstances. Much impulsive reaction needs to be corrected and can cause harm and unpleasant situations of conflict.

Where does impulsiveness come from. It comes from an insecurity of wanting to please and be performing, which is also forgetting about ourselves. It's an action where we do not consider our own ability to solve things in a calm and settled way. It is better to wait for the decision than to change your mind in the last moment. This way your decision will be well thought, final and you acquire much more respect and credibility. People who change their minds at last minute if it is a repeating pattern are not trustful and loose respect.

Not all questions need to be answered immediately, they need to be first thought through in detail and being felt in deepness to be well.

How to resolve a situation, which needs to be corrected . Go into calmness. Get to feel the heart and soul of all person's involved and get to feel what your soul is longing. Evaluate and follow your soul's wish after having evaluated the global situation. This means take a decision from your heart. Learn to take decisions from your heart by evaluating all person's involved feelings and soul patterns. Learn to feel in depth what the others triggers are, to make it reflect on you as mirror and then teach your own conflict and learn to correct your own pattern. With this help, visualize the other person's heart and get to know him better from an interior angle and not only the superficial exterior.

By doing this exercise you learn to become more calm and in peace with your decisions and way of resolving impulsive actions.